Many people believe that the vast majority of young people are drunk the first time they have sex, but surveys show that the majority are actually sober when they make their sexual debut. Unprotected sex is, however, more common amongst those who were drunk when they first had sex and amongst those who have been drinking before having sex.
Sometimes, the guys hassle you and say you're boring if you don't want to do something, which makes you feel stupid and scared that they'll spread rumours about you.
Sabina, aged 16, Gothenburg
Sex you regret
Sadly, young people do have sex against their will when they’re drunk. 10 per cent of girls and boys in the ninth grade and 16 per cent of 2nd year upper secondary school students who drink say that they’ve had sex when drunk and regretted it later. As an adult, it’s important that you talk to your teenager about this and make it very clear that they should only have sex if they really want to. And that there are, of course, no excuses whatsoever for sexual assault.
If you're trying to get off with someone but get turned down, you can always blame it on being drunk.
Hanna, aged 16, Gothenburg
Physically and emotionally, it’s worse
Alcohol can not only lead to someone having unprotected or unwanted sex, it can also affect their body and their emotions. It’s hard, when you have alcohol in your system, to feel the shared closeness that happens during physical intimacy with another person.
It can damage self-esteem
Many people find it easier to have sex when they’ve been drinking alcohol. They feel relaxed and braver. But if you make it a habit to be drunk in order to get physical with someone, there’s a real risk that it will feel natual and right. Over time you might not dare or know how to be physical without being drunk.