Have the courage to stick to your convictions
Listen to yourself and trust your opinions. As a parent, you have the right to decide what you think is the best thing to do. The more clearly you show your teenager what you expect, the easier it is for your teenager to accept it. And try to stand by what you think, even if someone ends up getting angry.
If you say “No” to something, tell your teenager why you’ve said it. It’s not about your son or daughter deciding whether you’re right or wrong. It’s about him or her understanding that there are good reasons why you’ve said “No” and that you’re not just saying it for the sake of saying it.
If your parents just say OK all the time, they don't really care.
Eddie, aged 15, Umeå
You can’t always be absolutely certain, right from the get-go, or be prepared when an unexpected situation arises. If your teenager asks you something and you’re not really certain what you think, you can try saying that you’d like to think about it and maybe talk to someone else about it before you give them your answer. It’s about showing respect for your teenager and showing them that taking a stand isn’t always easy.
Being a parent isn’t the same as being a friend
Letting things go doesn’t make you a nicer parent. Teenagers don’t need another friend – they need an adult they can rely on. The trick is to be close to your child, be able to talk about anything and everything, to share confidences – and, at the same time, to be an adult.