KEEP IN TOUCH
Ask your teenager to call or message at some point during the evening, to check in. Agree a time when you’ll be in touch and what they should do if they’re delayed.
RELAX WHILE YOU WAIT
Many people feel happier staying up until their teenager comes home. If that’s the case for you, it’s perfectly OK to just be there, and to pay attention if your child wants to talk about something that’s happened during the evening.
"I never get home in time. As long as I come home, my parents are happy".
Ted, aged 16, Umeå
ASK THEM TO WAKE YOU
If you simply can’t stay up late, there’s nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean that you don’t care. Ask you child to come into your room and gently wake you when they come home. That way, you’ll know that everything is OK, and you can relax and go back to sleep.
SET AN ALARM
If you want to go to bed but also want to know that your child has come home, set your alarm for shortly after the time you’ve agreed. If your teenager has come home, you can simply go back to bed again.
IF THEY DON’T COME HOME
The first and most important thing is, of course, to find out where your teenager is. If they don’t answer their phone, try contacting your teenager’s friends or their parents. If you don’t get an answer there either, it might be time to go out and start searching, because it’s incredibly stressful just sitting at home worrying and it might feel good to be actively doing something about your concerns.
It can also act as a clear signal that you care and that the time you agreed actually means something.