AGREE ON WHAT TO DO ABOUT YOUR CONCERNS
Talk about the best way to resolve your worry issues together. Maybe your teenager could call or message you during the evening while they’re out? Maybe you could agree on a time when they’ll call or message so you avoid calling a mobile phone that no one answers and getting more worried.
TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL
However good your intentions, even the most caring reminders can be boring and sound like nagging. Teenagers can, just like everyone else, attempt to empathise with another person’s feelings, so tell them how worried you are, what it’s like being a parent, and how it feels when you don’t really know they’re OK. By explaining, you show them that you trust them to be able to be responsible.
KIDS DON’T WANT TO MAKE THEIR PARENTS UNHAPPY
It might sometimes feel as though your teenager wants to hurt you, but you have to try and look past this tough shell and remember that behind it, there’s a child. No teenager really wants their parents to be unhappy or disappointed. The chances of a teenager taking slightly better care of themselves increase when they know that they have a parent who cares.
YOU CAN’T CONTROL EVERYTHING
If a teenager has made up their mind to drink, then they will probably do precisely that. It’s unfortunate that it’s so easy for teenagers to get hold of alcohol, but that’s not something that you can guarantee to prevent. So there’s no point in shouldering all of the blame and feeling like a bad parent. You can, of course, influence your teenager through the stance you take, but you can’t eliminate all the other factors that may influence them.